TEL: 01908 711600

Steffi Lewis

The No Commitment Way ...

To make a commitment!

Posted on: 20/04/2015   By: Steffi Lewis


Have you ever though you'd like to change something about yourself but that ''forever'' is such a long time and that you could never make a commitment as long as that? I may just have a solution for you ...

The No Commitment Way ... | To make a commitment!

Behaviours are ingrained in us from a very early age. "Don't put your hand in the fire", "clear your plate" and "look left and right before crossing the road" are some drilled into us during childhood.

"A lot of behaviours make sense, but we also develop new ones at every stage of our lives!"

Tweet this! (popup window)  Buffer it! (popup window)

When we do something for the first time and it results in us getting what we want, then we are likely to use the same behaviour again and again to get the same result and thus it becomes part of us.

Some Psychology studies show that behaviours are all we are and that we don't actually have consciousness, let alone free will - which is more a theological debate so we won't touch on that here. It's something quite interesting to think about though.

We create the world around us through our behaviours and sometimes this can be for the good or bad of ourselves, those around us and the world in general. A heavy drinker may say "I have a great time when I drink" but it may unknowingly be hurting those people closest to them. We need to think about the 'ecology' of our behaviours and then change them so that they give a positive outcome for all, not just us. If a particular behaviour works for you but hurts those around you then that behaviour is self-serving and therefore not ecologically sound, isn't it?

I'm not a therapist in any way shape or form, so I couldn't tell you what behaviours are good for you and those that aren't - but you just know don't you? It's that gut feeling - that intuition - that tells you when you're doing something good or bad. Sometimes it's those closest to you that will let you know and it's your duty to listen to what they're saying.

"Easier said than done sometimes hey?"

So why not try this ... a 30-Day Trial. Or a 7-Day Trial if it's something particularly difficult in your opinion. Give yourself a set period of time, starting and ending on specific dates to change a behaviour. This could be anything at all and here are a few examples:

  • Giving up smoking

  • Cut down on your drinking

  • Stop eating junk food

  • Say I love you every day to those you care about

  • Do more exercise

  • Volunteer weekly

  • Eat your evening meal with your family every night

  • Spend more time with the kids in general

  • Get up earlier

  • Go to bed earlier

  • Read a book rather than watch television all night

These are just a few behaviours that you can change and, of course, you're going to have a whole load more that you could change about yourself don't you? Ecologically, some of your behaviours result in positive outcomes and some are negative. What would you like to change about yourself starting today then?


Just don't beat yourself up if you break your trial as some things are really hard to do! Just reset it to the next morning and try again with renewed effort and a new time frame. The important thing is that you give it a go and keep on until you succeed.

And don't try to do too many at once either. I was incredibly ill and spent time in hospital in 2012. Whilst I was physically recovering from that I also had to deal with the loss of my closest friend as well. I tried to eat better, be grateful for my life every day, spend a lot more time with my friends and give up smoking, but failed on the last one because it was just too much to do in one go.

30-day trials have been around the IT world for years and it was Steve Pavlina that originally alerted me to their power as this well known Personal Development Guru used to be a software developer and offered them to his clients. I do the same with sblogit.com when people want to try business blogging.

Why not think about a behaviour that is no longer serving you, or a new behaviour you'd like to 'install' into yourself? What benefits would it bring to you, those around you and the world in general?

"The ecology of your change is important and should result in a positive outcome for all!"

Tweet this! (popup window)  Buffer it! (popup window)

30-day trials are known in personal development circles as the "no commitment way to making a commitment" so what's stopping you from changing one of your behaviours today and feeling great about your achievements by next month? Let me know how you get on!

Love, light and logic ...

Sx




Buffer
Click here to Share, Email or Bookmark this website

Précis (1)

More about Steffi Lewis ...

My name is Steffi Lewis and I'm a blogger and web designer celebrating 21 years in the Internet industry. I create blogs and websites for a simple monthly fee. I work with startups, SMEs and the self-employed ...

I help them to develop and maintain the best possible web and social media presence using the very latest technologies and techniques available.

From a standalone blog, through simple static five page websites, to a dynamically changing system with weekly blogging built in, testimonials and sales messages, whatever you need, I can offer you a great solution!

Telephone:

01908 711600


More blog posts for you to enjoy ...

Cancer: Finding My New Normal
It's been one hell of a journey ...

Blogs Vs Websites
The shift continues ...

The Death Of A Blog ...
When blogs die, do doves cry?

Eclipse 2015: Science, Religion And Mystery
How our understanding has changed over time ...

Why You Need A Structured Diary
And how to get the most from it ...

Four Great Yet Simple Reasons To Blog
The raw power of business blogging ...

Cancer: So The Good News Is
And the other good news is ...

Creating The Perfect Blog Post ...
How do my editors do it?


Other posts you may be interested in ...

The Importance Of Getting Your Branding Right
Posted on: blog.danielbennett.me.uk

Translation On A Retainer
Posted on: blog.global-lts.com

People Are The Driving Force Of Your Business
Posted on: blog.andromedaconsulting.co.uk


 
  
  

Daniel Bennett says ...

Daniel Bennett

"I write it, Steffi edits it, I approve it, job done; week in week out. If you're in business you really should be blogging; I recommend you talk to Steffi to make it a reality."

Celebrating 21 years of web design, development and blogging

Categories ...

General (11)

Networking (1)

Developers (7)

Random thoughts  (6)

Career Glimpses (4)

Month by month (9)

Soapbox (1)

Inspiration (3)

Gardening (3)

NLP & Psychology (18)

Social Media & The Web (3)

Business Tips (7)

Space & Science (6)

My Cancer Journey (13)

Blogging (9)

Featured client ...

MW Bookkeeping

Rock out while you read ...

Popular Blog Posts ...

The Single Best Marketing Idea You Can ...

A Case Of Really Bad Customer Service

Ooo'arrrh, Welcome To The Country

Boost Your SEO With Business Blogging

Creating The Perfect Blog Post ...

How Shallow Is Your Business?

The Joy Of Programming

Quote of the day ...

"When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead :)"

Login ...